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Create A Safety Plan


If you feel that you or a loved one may be in a potentially violent relationship, it is crucial to plan for the safety of the victim, their children, pets, and property. A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to enhance safety while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after you leave.


This safety planning page will help you think about things you can do to stay safe. For more information or assistance with safety planning, please contact the WPS Hotline @ (806) 747-6491 or (806) 748-5292.


Safety Planning

There are many options to consider when a victim makes plans to get out of an abusive relationship. When developing a security plan, one of the most important things you can do is talk to a Victim Advocate. The advocate can help you fully consider safety issues, understand your legal rights, and identify community resources (i.e., shelters, sources of financial assistance, or food banks). If you are in the Lubbock region, please call our 24-Hour confidential crisis hotline at 1-806-747-6491 or 1-800-736-6491.
The following safety suggestions have been compiled from safety plans distributed by state domestic violence coalitions from around the country. Following these suggestions is not a guarantee of safety but could help improve your safety situation. These actions can ease your departure and provide your safety and welfare once you decide to leave.

Personal Safety With an Abuser

“Safety Plan” is a term often used to describe a plan of actions that can help keep you safer from an abuser. Throughout these pages, you can find tips for keeping yourself and your family members safe in various situations. It’s important to know that not all of these suggestions work for everyone, and some might even put you at greater risk. Because of that, we encourage you to look through these safety tips and take those that make the most sense to you when creating a tailored safety plan for your specific situation.

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  • If you are in a situation that is escalating in its abuse, leave the situation for safety reasons.
  • Identify safe areas of the house where there are no weapons and always ways to escape. If arguments occur, try to move to those safe areas.
  • Do your best to keep your children safe by not running to them when conflict arises, as your partner may hurt them too.
  • If violence is unavoidable, make yourself a small target. Dive into a corner and curl up into a ball with your face protected and your arms around either side of your head with your fingers entwined.
  • If possible, have a phone accessible and know the numbers to call for help at all times. Know the location of the nearest payphone. Know your local battered women’s shelter phone number. Don’t be afraid to call the police.
  • Let trusted friends and neighbors know of your situation and develop a plan and visual signal when you need help.
  • Teach your children how to get help. Instruct them not to get involved in the violence between you and your partner.
  • Plan a code word to signal that they should get help or leave the house.
  • Tell your children that violence is never ok, even when someone they love is being violent. Tell them that neither you nor they are at fault or cause of the violence and that when anyone is being violent, it is essential to keep safe.
  • Practice how to get out safely. Practice with your children.
  • Plan for what you will do if your children tell your partner of your plan or if your partner finds out about your plan.
  • Keep weapons like guns or knives locked up and as inaccessible as possible.
  • Make a habit of backing the car into the driveway and keeping it fueled. Keep the driver’s door unlocked and the other doors locked for a quick escape.
  • Try not to wear scarves or long jewelry that your abuser could use to strangle you.
  • Create several plausible reasons for leaving the house at different times of the day or night.
  • Call a domestic violence hotline periodically to assess your options and get a supportive, understanding ear.

At any given moment

you have the POWER to say

this is NOT how the story will end.

General Guidelines for the Day a Victim Might Leave

  • Leave when it is least expected, for example, during times of agreement or calm.
  • Create a false trail. Call motels, real estate agencies, schools in a town at least six hours away from where you plan to relocate. Ask questions that require a call back to your house in order to leave those phone numbers on record.

Getting Ready To Leave

  • Keep any evidence of physical abuse, such as photographs of bruises and torn clothing.
  • Know where you can go to get help; tell someone what is happening to you.
  • If you are injured, go to a doctor or an emergency room and report what happened to you. Ask that they document your injuries.
  • Plan with your children and identify safe place for them (ex: a room with a lock or a friend’s house where they can go for help). Reassure them that their job is to stay safe, not to protect you.
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  • Contact your local family violence shelter and find out about laws and other resources available to you before your have to use them during  crisis.
  • Keep a journal of all violent incidents, noting dates, events, and threats made.
  • Acquire as many job skills as you can, such as learning to type or taking courses at a community college.
  • Try to set money aside or ask friends or relatives to hold money for you.
  • Store some belongings with a friend or relative. Leave clothing, medications, your Social Security card, a credit card (if possible), citizenship documents, children’s school/medical records, children’s toys, insurance information, copies of birth certificates, money, and other valued personal possessions with them.

General Guidelines for Leaving an Abusive Relationship

  • Make a plan for how to leave safely and where you will go.
  • Plan for a quick exit.
  • Put aside emergency cash as you can.
  • Hide an extra set of car keys.
  • Pack an extra set of clothes for yourself and your children and store them at a trusted friend or neighbor’s home.
  • Take important phone numbers (i.e. friends, relatives, doctors, schools, etc.) as well as other important items, including:
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      • Take important items, including:
        • Regularly needed medication
        • List of credit cards (account number and date of expiration) held by self or jointly, or the credit cards themselves if you have access to them.
        • Pay stubs
        • Checkbooks and information about bank accounts and other assets.

      If time is available, also take:

      • Citizenship documents (i.e. passport, greencard, etc.)
      • Titles, deeds, other property information, and tax return
      • Medical records
      • Children’s school records and immunization records
      • Insurance information
      • Copy of marriage license, birth certificates, will, and other legal documents
      • Verification of Social Security numbers
      • Welfare identification
      • Valued pictures, jewelry, or personal possessions

      After Leaving the Abusive Relationship

      If you are getting a restraining order and the offender is leaving:

      • Change your locks and phone number
      • Change your work hours and route taken to work
      • Change the route you take to transport children to school
      • Keep a certified copy of your restraining order with you at all times
      • Inform friends, neighbors, and employers that you have a restraining order in effect.
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        • Give copies of the restraining order to employers, neighbors, and schools along with a picture of the offender
        • If available in your community, register with VINE Protective Order™ to be notified immediately when the order is served, when the hearings will be held, and when amendments to the order are filed. Ask your victim advocate or sheriff’s office about this service.
        • Call law enforcement to enforce the order.
        • Carry a charged cell phone programmed to 911

        If you leave:

        • Consider renting a post office box for your mail
        • Be aware that addresses are listed on restraining orders and police reports
        • Be careful to whom you give your new address and phone number
        • Change your work hours if possible
        • ALert school authorities about the situation
        • Consider changing your children’s schools
        • Reschedule any appointments that the offender is aware of when you leave
        • Use different stores and frequent different social spots
        • Alert neighbors and request that they call the police if they feel you may be in danger
        • Talk to trusted people about the violence
        • Replace wooden doors with steel or metal doors
        • INstall security systems if possible
        • Install a lighting system that turns on when a person is coming close to the house (motion sensing lights)
        • Tell people you’ve your calls screened by a receptionist if possible
        • Tell people who take care of your children which individuals are allowed to puck up your children
        • Call the telephone company to request caller ID. Ask that your phone number be blocked so that if you call, neither your partner nor anyone else will be able to get your new, unlisted number
        • Receive ongping support from domestic violence and mental health service providers

        Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave even if you stumble a little on the way to the door.

        Take The First Step Toward Freedom

        A safety plan helps with strategies for keeping safe while you are in an abusive relationship, when you are ready to leave the relationship and after you have left. Call the Women’s Protective Services Hotline (806) 747-6491 to receive help building a personalized safety plan.