People who are victims tend to have some or all of the following characteristic due to the abuse they have experienced:
- Isolated from others
- low self esteem
- increased alcohol and drug use
- emotional problems and illness
- physical pain and injuries
- permanent physical damage
- increased fear or anger
- feelings of helplessness
- distrusting others
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to influence, gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner, family member, or household member. Domestic Violence comes in many forms including physical, sexual, verbal, psychological, emotional, and financial abuse. Abuse also include behaviors that are meant to frighten, intimidate, manipulate, hurt, terrorize, blame, humiliate, or injure someone.
Domestic Violence does not discriminate. It can happen to anyone of any race, age, religion, size, sexual orientation, or gender. It happens to individuals who are dating, living together, relate, or married. It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Noticing and acknowledging the warning signs and symptoms of Domestic Violence is the first step to ending it. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in a relationship with the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, don't hesitate to reach out. There is help available!
Signs of Abuse:
- Excessive jealousy
- Controlling behaviors
- Blames others for his/her problems
- Blames others for his/her feelings
- Verbal abuse
- Threats of violence
- Breaking or striking objects
- Cruelty to children or animals
- Past battering
- Use of force during an argument
Types of Abuse:
Physical abuse is the use of physical force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that person.
- Hitting,, slapping, punching
- Pushing, shoving, choking, kicking
- Burning, pulling hair, biting, scratching
- Prevents you from leaving
- Breaking objects
- Use of weapons
- Any form of physical force used to injure, intimidate, or threaten you
Emotional abuse is the use of verbal or psychological behaviors to chip away at your feelings of self-worth. Emotional abuse can sometimes be more damaging than physical abuse as it can leave deep and lasting scars.
- Name calling, insults, degrading remarks, humiliation
- Intimidation and threats against you, your family, and/or friends
- Threats of suicide by abuser
- Extreme jealousy of your friends and/or family
- Controlling actions
- Mind games and manipulation
- Being a slave or servant to your abuser
- Having to explain where you are going or who you are wit
Sexual abuse is when you are forced o perform unwanted, unsafe, and/or degrading sexual activity.
- Forced or pressured to participate in sex against your will
- Forced or pressured to have sex with others or in front of others against your will
- Degrading sexual remarks
- Being denied the use of contraceptives or forced to become pregnant against your will
- Withholding sex or affections
- Unwanted touching
- Use of weapons or objects during sex
Economic or financial abuse is when an abuser uses money to control you.
- Prevents you from working
- Refuses to work to support the family
- Uses money as a reward or punishment
- Sabotages your job by causing you to miss work or harassing you at work